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Just Toshing?

12/7/2012

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I think this is where Tosh shops Image: Steve Wilde
OK, OK, come on, I have got to get it together to write this piece. Only it's rather challenging because my sides are splitting. No, really, I'm ready now. Seriously. Stop it. Phh! OK. Don't blame me, blame the hilarious comedy that has been going on this week.

TRIGGER WARNING

Now, usually when you see the words 'trigger warning' you don't expect a laugh riot. But prepare to be a-freakin-mazed because it's about to get edgy over here. Those who refuse to use Twitter will perhaps be unfamiliar with one of the latest mystery trending topics. In fact the uninitiated probably won't know what a mystery trending topic is. When you see an unfamiliar name or odd sentence trending you simply have to click. Lately I've found it is usually a member of One Direction (because I am of a certain age I only know Harry) but this time the trending topic was #Daniel Tosh who had apparently been living up to his name. 

What did Tosh (ha ha Tosh!) do to get Twitter all a...twitter? Well, he was heckled and his comeback was less than snappy. You can read the heckler's account in full here but in brief Tosh told a joke about rape. In fact from the hecker's account Tosh couldn't stop talking about rape: “Tosh then starts making some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious, etc. I don’t know why he was so repetitive about it but I felt provoked because I, for one, DON’T find them funny and never have. So I didnt appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny. So I yelled out, “Actually, rape jokes are never funny!”  

Heckling's a funny thing. While there are many plays that break the forth wall and speeches that are infuriating (or dull) to heckle would be seen as an unexpected thing to do. When I see a live stand up show though I expect heckling. Heckling can really prove a comedian's wit and talent, there is nothing quite like seeing that sudden glint in a comedian's eye as divine inspiration strikes and a devastating comeback is delivered. If the heckler is a match for the person on stage a bit of witty repartee is fun to watch. Of course nobody likes the drunk heckler, their wits dulled by alcohol, who are concerned the people at the back didn't hear, so repeat themselves over and over. It is understandable that when you're on stage a heckler is mostly a pain who ruins your timing. But a good heckler put down can be hugely successful as Eddie Izzard demonstrates.

I don't think this comeback will be the making of Tosh: "Wouldn't it be funny if that girl got raped by like, five at guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her..."

Funny ha ha?

Funny peculiar would be a bit of a stretch. But YEAH, what if? Tosh tweeted “all the out of context misquotes aside, i'd like to sincerely apologize”. Which makes you wonder...in what context is the gang rape of a specific woman, with numerous witnesses, funny?

Dear reader, Tosh went on to clarify what context made this all alright and we could all be friends again: “the point i was making before i was heckled is there are awful things in the world but you can still make jokes about them. #deadbabies”. What kind of killjoy doesn't enjoy a good dead baby joke?

I definitely feel better, consider the trigger warning lifted.

The point Tosh was making is actually quite valid. It is where the 'if you don't laugh, you cry' mentality comes from and a dark humour is not necessarily a crime. The trick is, of course, to do it well. Laughing at rapists, laughing at the act of rape? It could be argued that this could open up a dialogue about rape, it could alleviate fear. But laughing at a rape victim can never, ever be funny. An act of such pure violence and hatred is not going to be a comedy goldmine.

Where do you draw the line? Why is Louis CK's anecdote about rape funny, while Tosh's anecdote about (before you start yes I realise they are, at the very least exaggerated anecdotes) rape within the all important context of sick humour (you can't say you weren't warned) fails?  
For one thing I think the idea of something not working because it was out of context is rubbish. It means the punchline is simply not good. The importance given to context in these situations makes me feel uncomfortable because it smacks a little too much of starting sentences with “I'm not a racist, but...” You are offended because it was out of context, you cannot be offended because I have just denied any allegiance with this abhorrent behaviour.

The idea of there being a set line is rarely good, or a list of acceptable subjects, especially not in comedy. Comedy is one of the best methods of challenging something. But this Tosh rape joke, or heckle put-down does not challenge a thing. It doesn't challenge polite humour, it doesn't challenge the crime of rape, it's just a guy losing his temper and saying something terrible. At best it's boring at worst it's triggering and condoning.

Whatever your platform or however much right you have to an opinion (oh for some people just to have one) you do also have a responsibility. I for one am getting really sick of seeing people in the public eye use the word rape to mean 'somebody has inconvenienced me.' Richard Herring proudly recalled a good comeback he thought up for an annoying woman heckler: “At one gig, a woman was loudly and unamusingly commentating on everything that happened. I said to her: 'You’re a bit talkative, aren’t you? You’re loquacious. It’s annoying. You’re the one woman in the world where a man would put Rohypnol in your drink and then leave you in the pub.’” A rape jibe that is all the more infuriating for the underlying and victim blaming suggestion that women might take rape as a compliment. That no ugly or annoying women (or men) get raped.

Just as it is important comedians experiment and challenge it is also important we pull them up when they do cross that ever moving line. 


Squeamish Kate

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F1Kate link
11/7/2012 06:29:27 pm

I'd not heard the Louis CK joke before - it's actually a funny anecdote about rape. Wow. I knew it was possible, but hadn't heard it done.

As for the other one? Yuck. I don't know how he got laughs - I just felt awful that some poor individual with no social awareness was humiliating himself by being that gauche on video. It was like watching someone without tastebuds who'd never seen food before trying to construct a Michelin-starred meal.

I need to stop making sexual assault jokes about my own sexual frustration, though. Even dry spell joking amongst friends about pouncing on the next available male shouldn't be funny, even if everyone I'm talking to knows me and knows I'm nowhere near serious.

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Squeamish Kate link
11/7/2012 06:45:18 pm

I think Louis CK is a great example of how you CAN approach certain 'taboo' subjects, I also wanted to show that men can make such jokes, they just have to have a sense of humour and not this anger.

Yeah I don't like to see the subject of rape casually approached.

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Becky Shepherd
12/7/2012 03:43:11 am

Yeah, the Louis CK joke is a brilliant example of how to make a sensitive issue funny.

I'm also a massive Stewart Lee fan who argues in favour of political correctness. While making rape jokes doesn't come under the guise of being un-PC, I think it's a similar school of thought. You can be edgy, dark and even make light of very sensitive issues, as long as you deal with them carefully and your aim is to be funny rather than to shock.

PS. Best response to this Tosh... tosh I've read!

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Squeamish Kate link
12/7/2012 04:56:04 pm

Brilliant! Thanks!
Yep Stewart Lee is another example of how these sensitive subjects can be approached but, y'know, sensitively!

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