Janay Palmer has since married this man. Is that disappointing? Disturbing? Curious? Maybe. Is it our business? Possibly. If a woman is in danger it is most definitely our business. This isn't a question of who should intervene in such situations but how we intervene. And FYI you are not doing some kind of public service by watching or sharing the footage of the attack.
After Rice pleaded not guilty in an investigation he entered an intervention program for first-time offenders which meant he could avoid a trial. The NFL reacted to his violence by handing Rice a two game suspension in July.
In her Huffington Post column Ethlie Ann Vare noted a shocked sports commentator's reaction to the NFL's decision: "You get a five-game suspension for smoking a joint, he gasped, and that stuff's practically legal!" The commentator wasn't alone in thinking this was paltry and since then Rice's contract has been terminated and he is on indefinite suspension.
This isn't a question of who should intervene in such situations but how we intervene.
We have to consider, as Hannah Giorgis encourages us to that: "victim blaming extends far past simply being shunned by your immediate community - it means having your most horrific memories go viral without your consent. It means having millions of people virtually dissect your wounds, not to heal them but to decide if your injuries were bad enough for everyone to feel bad for you."
We should also consider what our reaction and the NFL's would be had Ray Rice acted this way towards a stranger. Or a team mate. Would we wonder what they had done to provoke him? Or focus entirely on the perpetrator.
Instead of focusing on the whys and hows and who of this specific case we should focus on making sure resources for people in violent or abusive relationships are available and accessible. We should focus on education that discusses what a healthy relationship is. We should focus on our part on why it might ever be safer to stay than to leave.