Ok, so we had The Fappening and I think we all learned a lesson from it. Or rather we were helpfully informed that we should all learn from this with informative tweets revolving around one theme: ladies, if you don't want strangers to post stolen naked pictures on your they found from getting into your private iCloud account then stop taking naked photos of yourself!
The subtext of the lesson was this - ladies, people on the internet cannot be trusted to make any kind of judgement that involves respecting your privacy, therefore when you send anyone a nude photo you relinquish all rights to privacy, kthxbye.
The subtext of the lesson was this - ladies, people on the internet cannot be trusted to make any kind of judgement that involves respecting your privacy, therefore when you send anyone a nude photo you relinquish all rights to privacy, kthxbye.
Of course the real lesson learned is that the question of who owns a woman's body is still up for debate. Or rather we still think we all in some way are owed something by women. They owe it to us to keep their nudity under attractive clothing. Attractive clothing that both displays their figure so we can have a good think about whether they have good tits or not but also covers her up.
They owe it to themselves but most of all to us. Particularly if the woman has, through her profession, put herself in the public eye. If she gets a haircut that we, the people/People Magazine doesn't like we know our duty is to let her know. If she puts on weight or loses weight it is necessary that we express concern or congratulations.
Whether or not we have the right to gossip about the fashion and physical women who earn huge amounts of money from acting or singing or being photographed is a difficult one. However the free for all attitude regarding comment on famous women's appearance has leaked in to the belief that we/men have the right to comment on all women's appearance. A rule that should apply to all women however is to stop equating her morals with her dress sense, or lack of dress.
They owe it to themselves but most of all to us. Particularly if the woman has, through her profession, put herself in the public eye. If she gets a haircut that we, the people/People Magazine doesn't like we know our duty is to let her know. If she puts on weight or loses weight it is necessary that we express concern or congratulations.
Whether or not we have the right to gossip about the fashion and physical women who earn huge amounts of money from acting or singing or being photographed is a difficult one. However the free for all attitude regarding comment on famous women's appearance has leaked in to the belief that we/men have the right to comment on all women's appearance. A rule that should apply to all women however is to stop equating her morals with her dress sense, or lack of dress.
| It is not kind or helpful to tell women they look better without make up or in more modest attire. The message from that is not 'you are beautiful just as you are' but that 'it matters that you are beautiful and that you are appealing to me'. | they are actually not nearly as empowering as they think they are |
Last year Paladin quarterback Ryan McCarthy and senior starting fullback Andrew Wilborn decided that women were dressing kinda slutty because they simply didn't understand that Andrew and Ryan aren't into that look. In order to get the message across and the women on campus dressing in a way they liked they decided to sing a song called Virtue Makes You Beautiful with some other male Paladin students and put it up on YouTube. "Our goal with this video is to promote the virtue of modesty across the Paladin student body" said a junior.
These projects headed up by boys and/or parents aren't intended to be cruel, I realise that. But they are actually not nearly as empowering as they think they are and I don't think any woman is waiting for your permission to take off her make up. These projects, these messages perpetuate the virgin/whore dichotomy, that's what makes them cruel - you don't want to be mistaken for those girls do you?
Your dress might signal what music you like, or colour, or y'know, just that you like that outfit. But people need to realise it does not indicate whether or not you volunteer at a soup kitchen (that's virtuous) or whether you sleep around (that has little to do with being virtuous) and really...who cares?
Squeamish Kate
These projects headed up by boys and/or parents aren't intended to be cruel, I realise that. But they are actually not nearly as empowering as they think they are and I don't think any woman is waiting for your permission to take off her make up. These projects, these messages perpetuate the virgin/whore dichotomy, that's what makes them cruel - you don't want to be mistaken for those girls do you?
Your dress might signal what music you like, or colour, or y'know, just that you like that outfit. But people need to realise it does not indicate whether or not you volunteer at a soup kitchen (that's virtuous) or whether you sleep around (that has little to do with being virtuous) and really...who cares?
Squeamish Kate
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