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Sex Ed & The Teenage Boy

20/7/2014

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We have witnessed over and over again people trying to educate women and girls who seem to simply not know how to not get raped. It's super easy, don't drink, don't wear provocative clothing, don't express any sexuality, don't go outside. But these women and girls just don't listen. So it seems we might have to turn to go a little extreme. We're going to have to suggest boys and men try not to rape. Oh I know this is very simplistic. Not ALL men or boys rape. However, when you're constantly reduced to silly females who get drunk and therefore get what's coming to them (thank you for your advice Joanna Lumley et al) it's hard not to generalise RIGHT BACKATCHA! Last week Shadow Home Secretary Yvette Cooper wrote in theIndependent suggesting we educate boys that it's not really acceptable to think abuse (verbal and physical) is normal. ï»¿

It's a hard pitch. You might be thinking one of two things 'everybody knows abuse is bad, what is this? The Hulk teaches how to be nice class?' "abuse bad, Hulk refrain from smash". OR you are thinking 'what a whiney bitch, life's hard and girls shouldn't be taught to play the victim'. Am I right? 

Lara Prendergast is thinking along those lines and wrote in the Spectator that what Cooper is actually suggesting is indoctrination of boys with feminism. "Compulsory sex education in which boys are taught to be feminists is beyond silly. By all means explain that they shouldn't go round lifting up girls' skirts for a peek, but it's possible to do this without telling them they must call themselves feminists. They might not like that kind of prescription. Schoolboys do tend to be a bit...truculent." 

However I don't think the behaviour cited by Cooper sounds very 'boys will be boys' truculent behaviour:  "Whore, bitch, slag, slut," - these are the insults one teacher says she hears levelled at teenage girls on a daily basis. She described girls being "heckled if they dare to speak in class, their shirts forcibly undone, their skirts lifted and held by groups of boys".
The fact that boys, teenage boys might need to be told it's not really the done thing to lift up a girl's skirt is alarming, no? It does rather suggest that they believe everything is, or should be, designed for their pleasure and approval. Or that they're still in reception class. 

we, as a nation, simply cannot afford to allow boys to continue to think this behaviour is ok

Which of course is only going to lead to disappointment for everyone. Living constantly a level of 10 leads to numbness and disillusionment. And what if these teenage boys who believe the world is simply awaiting their approval have absolutely no discernment?

In her article Cooper mentions the struggle refuges are experiencing with the cuts, there has been an increase in the number of reported abuse and rape crimes and "one woman told me she couldn't get an injunction out against a violent ex because legal aid reforms meant she had to pay herself and she couldn't afford it."  Put bluntly, we as a nation simply cannot afford to allow boys to continue to think this behaviour is ok, we cannot afford to dismiss it as teen boy hijinx. I mean this both economically speaking and emotionally. 

Is this a call for indoctrination, or understanding? "Our children and teenagers need sex and relationship education that recognises the realities and helps them build the resilience to cope in an internet age....And yes, that means boys as well as girls. Men as well as women. No teenage boy should grow up persuaded that abuse is normal, or feeling forced to behave in particular ways to prove their masculinity."

We need to stop making excuses and dismissing abusive behaviour as simply high spirits. If that means bringing feminism to young people of all genders then I suggest we get on it. 

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