This definitely didn't happen in the good old days. Say 20 years ago. Or 90 years ago. Or 2,000 years ago. Nah, people used to hate talking about sex.
Look. I'm not saying that we shouldn't talk about sex. Or think about the messages we send out when we do it. Or the ways in which we socialise young people to see, talk about and perform sexual roles. I'm just saying maybe it would be a good idea to just... relax a bit.
The Mail are concerned that some women are losing their libidos. Despite the fact that “films and TV dramas would have us believe every woman is enslaved by an almost insatiable libido,” these women aren't feeling the urge.
I'm just saying maybe it would be a good idea to just...relax a bit.
Now, in fairness to the story, I should point out that in some respects it's pretty balanced. It mentions both the possible hormonal and lifestyle factors that can lead to a loss of libido, and the impact this can have on people.
But perhaps when you are quoting surveys which have apparently “shown that more than a third of women do not experience orgasm with a partner, or find sex actively painful” there might be a slightly bigger picture to look at.
When I say we should relax about sex, I mean that in several ways. Firstly, if someone doesn't want to have sex and they're happy with that choice then guess what? That's fine. And if they do, it's not a competition. It should just be about enjoyment for the people involved. I know, a radical concept.
Certainly for most of the commenters. There are lots of comments around the idea that sex is a given in a relationship. As if once you have started dating someone it is their right to demand it.
Yes, it's good for making a baby, if you have the right combination of bits. But if that's not your goal then why are you doing it if you're not enjoying it? It makes no sense to me.
It would be nice if we could all just take a breath, realise that bodies come in lots of shapes and sizes, sex comes in multiple varieties, and it's no-one else's business how little or often or how we do it (unless perhaps they're someone we want to get jiggy with).